Before Leaving Home
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Never make the first visit alone. Even if you are emotionally set about making it through your first time, bring a friend or relative with you. The extra pair of eyes and ears can be handy during a trip to an unfamiliar setting. |
Bring this book. Part III was specifically written to be read at
the site.
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Umbrella by permission from Derick Earp |
Flats -
do not wear high heels even if visiting a mausoleum. Umbrella - expect any weather situation. Dress so you add or subtract clothing easily. In southern cemeteries expect tree moss and their insects. Purse – Not all cemeteries have security. You will not get mugged, but if your car is parked out of sight hide valuables and lock the doors. Take the keys. Wear your purse attached to your person.
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Map to Grave -
unless you absolutely know where it is. If this is
your first time after the burial, do NOT trust your memory. If it has
been more than 2 years, expect changes in landscape and more
headstones to wander through. Cone vase - the extra one you had and put in the trunk. Didn’t you?
Grave Decorations -
if not stopping at a flower shop. Some cemeteries and
many public mausoleums will either not permit decorations (gifts) or
supply them already. Know your choices. Container of Water - should always have in car anyway. Cell Phone – or alert someone as to where you are. Breaking down in a cemetery, especially a rural one, can ruin your day. |
Homemade gifts are often sweeter than store bought presents.
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Tools - especially if you will be planting. Chair - it’s also a park and you might want to sit awhile. Tissues – It is remarkable how many folks do not remember tissues. Camera – does a shut-in relative need a picture of the site or the gifts you bring? Do you need an image for legal or personal reasons? Memories - You may not be in mourning, still, now is the time to Remember as well as to flush out sorrow. |
